This is a completely superb articulation of why the oft-heard cry of "but not all men are like that" in response to discussions of the shitty, awful things (some) men do is unhelpful at best, and ignorant and harmful at worst. I'm not judging anyone who has said it, because I know I have, when I was younger and stupider, and did not get the point this post is making. The linked post deserves to do the round in a big way, if only to help people be less stupid than I was.